–  DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law is a heavy smoker. – 

–  Every two hours, she smokes outside on our back patio. – 

–  She closes the sliding glass door behind her, but I can still smell the smoke inside the entire time. – 

–  She is cooperating to the extent she can with your house rules, – 

–  so if you want a relationship with her (if only so your child has a chance to know his grandmother), I suggest you lighten up. – 

–  DEAR FUMING: As much as I agree that smoking is unhealthy and a social turnoff, your husband is right. – 

–  His mother is severely addicted to smoking if she can’t go more than two hours without a “fix.” –